@sophia Thank you for writing this. It resonates deeply.
I'm always amazed at how people need to put others into boxes and categories if they think you're not one of their peers.
This way, you're one of the <whatever group> that doesn't apply to them.
Then you're not unique anymore and everything you do or don't will be perceived through the group lens, not as a personal act.
Then you're not an individual but part of a category they put their clichés on.
How I despise this.